Wednesday’s Child: Imani

Every Wednesday I feature a child recently highlighted by a local Wednesday’s Child newscast to share the stories of children from around the country who are waiting for a family. My hope is that this can broaden exposure for the children highlighted, but also serve as a reminder that these children represent thousands of children currently in the foster-care system. Perhaps their stories will inspire you to consider opening your home to a child needing a family. For more information and to learn about other waiting children, visit AdoptUsKids.

Source Link: Wednesday’s Child: Imani

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog ,


Green Beauty Recap – August

This month, I’ve got green beauty finds in skincare, hair care, cosmetics, and fragrance. Let’s get started!


First off, let’s talk about some new, lovely colors from the Root Pretty Fall collection. Shown here are the Sugar and Spice lipstick, XOXO lipstick, Bliss eye shadow, and Sophie Pressed Blushing Bronze. LOVING the blush, as it adds the perfect amount of color and sheen to the cheekbones. Also, the XOXO lipstick is the pretty berry for Fall.

Here I am wearing XOXO, Bliss eye shadow, and the Sophie Pressed Blushing Bronze.


Such a great look for Fall, right? I’m loving it. (Seriously, how great is that sheen on the cheekbones?)

Next up, Innersense Organic Beauty hair care.

Y’all know I love me some Innersense. The brand is still my #1 in the organic hair care realm. (I wrote about it in detail here.) Well, now they have a travel-sized kit, which I’m so thrilled about, considering I’ve been traipsing around a fair amount this past year.


This would be a great starter for those of you who want to try the brand out. I highly recommend!

Oh! I think I’ve found the best organic beachy hair product ever.


French Girl Sea Spray. It’s perfection. Adds that perfect wavy, tousled look, yet doesn’t smell like coconuts or tanning lotion. Nope, it’s much more sophisticated – jasmine and neroli to be exact. A must-have for me. (Also, Rodale’s is starting to carry a lot of great green brands as of late!)

Next up, fragrance.


This is the brand new Flourish Calming Perfume by Hollybeth Organics. This handcrafted proprietary blend of marjoram and geranium essential oils evolve to spicy middle and bottom notes of bergamot and ylang ylang.

This is definitely a calming scent, however, it didn’t jive with my body chemistry, so I probably won’t be wearing it very often. (Still on the search for the perfect organic/natural perfume. It’s a tough one! Anyone have any recommendations for me?)

Now, let’s talk skincare.


If you haven’t heard about Maya Chia, you probably will very soon. I’ve read glowing review after review after review.

While I’m not ready to dish a full review (I’ve only been using it for 2 weeks), I can tell you this. The products are definitely worthy of praise – the scent, the quality, yep…I’m enjoying them. The Supercritical Omega-3 Chia Oil has the most lovely light, fresh scent, and although lightweight, it provides good hydration. (Although, not sure about that during the dead of winter. Will have to see…)

The Super Couple smells divine. Like luxury in a bottle – jasmine, rose, frankincense, and lavender – well, you just need to take a whiff for yourself. It’s legit. I’m personally more interested in this particular oil since it has many anti-aging benefits.

I will keep you posted!

Last, but certainly not least, Ilia Beauty has some fun new additions for Fall. Specifically, Silken Shadow Stick in And She Was, Pure Eyeliner in Nightclubbing, and the Multi-Stick in I Put A Spell On You.


I just received these this week, so I haven’t had the chance to photograph myself wearing them, but I have to say, the Multi-Stick was such a pleasant surprise! I Put A Spell On You is touted as “a bright tangerine that looks fabulous on warm-toned skin.” Now, I do not have warm-toned skin nor does the thought of tangerine entice me, but oh my goodness, it looks just lovely on the cheekbones. In fact, I’ve been wearing it the past few days and have received compliments on my glowing skin.

All to say…don’t knock it ’til you try it.

That’s a wrap for this month! As always, leave me questions in the comments and I’ll do my best to help out!

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Why that rich, adopted NFL player needs to sit down

I don’t follow football, or sports in general, but this week it has been impossible to avoid the anger and backlash to Colin Kaepernick’s decision to stay seated during the national anthem. In an interview, the 49ers player cited his reasons:

“I am not going to stand up to show pride in a flag for a country that oppresses black people and people of color. … There are bodies in the street and people getting paid leave and getting away with murder.”

Kaepernick, like many in our country, is tired of the pattern of oppression against black people in our country and decided to use his public platform as an NFL player to make a statement . . . and it certainly worked. However, it seemed to have ignited an angry mob of people who feel that he should be fired for exercising this right to protest. People on facebook and twitter have called for his suspension, and he has also been victim to an onslaught of racist harassment online. (It’s not hard to see the irony when people are suggesting he’s overreacting about oppression against black people in this country and calling him the N word at the same time. Kind of proving his point.)

What is interesting to me, though, is not the chant of the angry racist mob, but rather the number of “concerned” folk who are suggesting that Kaepernick doesn’t have the right to say anything because he’s rich. He makes a million dollars a year! He was adopted by white parents! He’s wealthy! He’s had it easy! What does he know about oppression??
All of these comments display the commonly-held confusion between socio-economic privilege and racial privilege. They aren’t the same. Him being rich, or adopted, or having two white parents, or going to college on scholarship  . . . none of that shields him from racial discrimination. He’s still black if he gets pulled over, black when he goes to the store, black when he gets called the N word on twitter all week this week. He’s protesting racial discrimination. Not poverty or lack of opportunity. 
He is not anti-military or anti-police, he is anti-oppression. And if someone being anti-oppression makes you angry, well . . . methinks thou doth protest too much.

Wanting your country to be better does not make you unpatriotic. For the love, Trump centered his entire campaign around the premise that the country needs improvement. So why are so many of his fans up in arms that Kaepernick is suggesting that some shit ain’t right? Isn’t that exactly what Trump built a platform on?

I also find it really curious that so many of the same Christians who read the bible totally literally when it comes to homosexuality are up in arms about someone not standing for a national anthem or a classroom letting kids opt out of saying the pledge. How are so many Christians ready to quote Leviticus 18;22 but seemingly unfamiliar with the passage in Matthew where Jesus TOTALLY FORBIDS OATHS. Because if we are gonna adhere to every prescriptive in the bible, I think Jesus just said that the pledge of allegiance is Satanic. (Like, for real. He does.)
If you are outraged that he’s not standing for the national anthem, that’s your right, just as it’s his right to be outraged over systemic racism and voice that concern by sitting. But don’t assume that being adopted or wealthy provides him with some kind of shield against racism. A quick look at what he’s been called on twitter will show that isn’t the case. And if you think that black kids adopted by white folks or black kids who grew up upper-middle-class are automatically exempt from enduring microaggressions and greater suspicion as people of color, well . . . I can speak from experience that this is not the case. 
Racism is alive and well in our country right now, and no amount of opportunity or wealth or white parents will shield a black man from that racism. And until that isn’t the case, Kaepernick feels the need to sit. And I respect that.

Source Link: Why that rich, adopted NFL player needs to sit down

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog ,

Barney gives you the opportunity to “play poor” with pre-worn shoes for only $620

The other day I stumbled upon these “distressed” sneakers that Barneys New York is selling for $620.

Six. Hundred. Dollars. For shoes that come pre-sullied.
You guys. I am still dizzy from how much involuntary eye-rolling this product has induced. What in the world?  People are paying this kind of money to have their shoes look like they came out of the closet of one of my tween boys? Because I could go to Payless and grab some Airwalks and my boys would have them looking this way in a week, tops.
Not only is it idiotic, it’s tone-deaf and a horrible example of the shenanigans people with Too Much Money get up to.  Is “playing poor” a new ironic hipster thing to do? Is “slumming it” the new way to show that you are too rich to even care?  Or is this like a Rich People: We’re Just Like You thing, only they are too lazy to actually scuff up their shoes. Like, I want to look like a regular person with worn shoes but I don’t actually want to sully my shoes out with the commoners and away from my Ranger Rover and Tuscan Revival McMansion?  I need to understand the psychology here. 

Tell you what. If you are in the market for some old, worn sneakers, come on over. We’ve got all sizes. I will make you a killer deal. I’ve got lots more where these came from.

 And the authentic plebian sweaty smell? I’ll throw that in for free.

Source Link: Barney gives you the opportunity to “play poor” with pre-worn shoes for only $620

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog ,

The case for cultivating your child’s musical IQ

The following post is sponsored by Netflix and Beat Bugs, a new family show inspired by the music of the Beatles.

Philosophically, I agree with the theory that kids should choose their own passions. I have seen the results of pushy parents who force their kids to be involved in the activity of the parent’s choosing, with no regard for the child.  I’ve watched kids cry while being forced out onto a baseball field. I’ve seen parents insistent that their preschooler learn violin.  And we’ve all seen commercials for that show Dance Moms.  Clearly, I don’t want to be that kind of mother.  I want my kids to choose what it is that they love instead of being forced into a hobby that isn’t a good fit.

At the same time, I do think that kids need some gentle encouragement, because seriously . . . what child naturally decides to take piano lessons or signs themselves up for a group sport?  Obviously, parents are behind these decisions for younger kids. 

Coming from a rather musical family, I’ve always felt that kids should at least be introduced to musical concepts, and know how to play one instrument proficiently. And yes, perhaps that fact puts me in the category of  the pushy parent I described above, but there it is. I don’t need my kids to be concert pianists, but I’d like all of them to be able to read music and having a working knowledge of chords and theory in case they decide that music is something they want to pursue later in life.  I don’t care what instrument floats their boat, but I think the arts are important.  

To me, having my kids know how to play an instrument is the gift that keeps on giving. It’s a hobby that can be enjoyed all through life. While I had a lot of passions as a kid, few of them have stuck with me the way music has . . . I don’t do a lot of gymnastics or cheerleading these days, but I still enjoy sitting down at the piano.

In addition to the gift of knowing how to make music, I also think there are huge cognitive benefits of kids both learning, and listening to, good music. When my kids were little, the Mozart effect — the notion that you can increase intelligence by listening to Mozart’s music — was a topic of discussion in parenting circles. Research has shown that kids with music training do better in science, score higher on IQ tests, and perform better in school all-around.

Consequently, I make all of my kids take regular music lessons in the instrument of their choice. My mother did this as well, and I’m glad she did.  I ended up majoring in piano performance for two years in college, even though at age 6 I was kicking and screaming over lessons.  Does that mean she chose my passion . . . or does it mean that she taught me discipline until my own passion matured? I think it’s the latter.

I’ve also always tried to have a home that is full of music. (And a car full of music as well.) I’ve never been able to tolerate kids’ music. The simplistic melodies and repetitive refrains drive me nuts, and I wanted to cultivate appreciation for more complex music. So my kids have always listened to whatever I wanted to listen to . . . from pop to musical theater to the songs of The Beatles.

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Parents have a new alternative to introduce their kids to music and inspire a life-long love of it. (Bonus: It’s not annoying for adults!). The new Netflix show Beat Bugs is the perfect entry point and antidote for parents to pass on the tunes they love, with music inspired by The Beatles and sung by Sia, Eddie Vedder, P!nk, The Shins, and more. It’s amazing, quality music by talented artists, pulling from the expansive collection of the Beatles library.

Beat Bugs is now available to stream on Netflix and for your road-trip listening pleasure, the soundtrack is on iTunes, here. You can follow Beat Bugs on Facebook, here. Best yet, I have (5) gift cards for a three-month free Netflix subscriptions to give away. To enter, comment below and let me know why music is important to your family. I will pick winners at random on September 6th. Good luck!

Source Link: The case for cultivating your child’s musical IQ

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog ,

Want I want you to know about EpiPens and CEOs

What I Want You to Know is a series of reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to this series, click here. Today’s guest post is by Jenny Wienstroer.

I skim my thumb over the social media posts on my phone late one night. Funny memes, back to school photos of my friends’ kids, and political news. Other than the start of a new school year, there’s really nothing out of the ordinary. Then it stops me. NBC News breaks another story on a pharmaceutical company. Maybe you saw it.

Truthfully, I saw the photo before I saw the headline. Any mom armed with an EpiPen will stop what she’s doing when she sees a food allergy post. Then I read the headline: Mylan Execs Gave Themselves Raises As They Hiked EpiPen Prices. I click on the story and read it. I balk at the numbers, read a few of the comments, give it a Facebook “angry” emoji, and close the app. The next afternoon I see a similar post again and I read it a second time and a third time. The inflated numbers are baffling and I just can’t stop thinking about all the families like mine that rely on this life-saving medicine. How did epinephrine come to be so expensive? Why is there not a generic version? Is the CEO’s annual salary really almost $19 million dollars?

I Google search “Mylan CEO” to put a face and a name to the story. Heather Bresch. Seriously? Heather Bresch. While I partly expected to see a photo of a beady-eyed vampire, Heather Bresch looks like she is my age. No way, she can’t be. She’s busy juggling life as a successful CEO and earning 19 million dollars while I juggle 4 kids, half-ass my PTA involvement, and don’t buy anything from Target without my Cartwheel coupon app. Okay. Good for her. Really. Bust those glass ceilings. But I begin wondering if Heather is a mother, like me.

Is Heather a mother who has to keep watch of every bit of food her son puts in his mouth? Does she let him go off to play with other kids and hope to God he doesn’t share snacks? Maybe she, too, stands in the grocery store reading every label of every thing she puts in her cart. Does she just LOVE holiday treats? Sorting through and confiscating Halloween candy that contains nuts from a three year old on a sugar high? (So much fun, Heather.) Did she once sit at her dinner table and watch her eleven month old baby have an anaphylaxis reaction? Did she learn the hard way that Benedryl does not work, only two doses from an EpiPen pack will save her son from dying of internal suffocation?

Heather has rightfully earned a high-profile (read: kick ass) job so my bet is that HR has her set up with excellent insurance coverage. But does she get only one insurance-approved EpiPen pack every year, carry it everywhere her son goes, and makes sure she doesn’t leave it in the car? Does she know that if she does leave that EpiPen in the car, the medicine will spoil and she will have to make another appointment with her son’s specialist, wait a month for the next availability, and then explain what happened to the unused EpiPen so the doctor will agree to write another script. Does she know that doctors do not like doing that? (Heather, don’t waste the doctor’s time making such a foolish and expensive mistake.) Does she know that insurance will not cover another EpiPen in the same calendar year? (Heather, be prepared to tell the CVS pharmacist that you already know that as you swipe your credit card for an $800 prescription.)

Does she know that every adult in the house should carry an EpiPen, and her child’s teacher should have an EpiPen, and her child’s school office should have an EpiPen? That’s three, maybe four. Don’t even let a parent chaperone leave it at the zoo when the field trip is over. Someone will steal it (because EpiPens are quite valuable) and you will have to go back to CVS. Does she know that most parents can afford only one EpiPen? And does she know that some parents take the risk of not having one because a Quick Care visit is less expensive?

Heather, if you have been down this road already, call me. I’m just getting the hang of it and I could use a good girl talk. And if you have experienced these daily realities, you feel me, right? Change it up. Altogether use your motherly code of ethics along with your bad ass business sense that already has you busting CEO glass ceilings. Think twice when making executive decisions that criminalize pharmaceutical companies. Rethink inflated Mylan raises and 400% increases on EpiPen prices and do better. How? Make it affordable, of course. But do more. What can you do for children with food allergies that attend school? Help increase food allergy awareness. Help educate administrators and educators about life threatening food allergies. Donate EpiPens to school nurses so parents do not have to fill multiple prescriptions. Give charitable donations to food allergy research. Fund food allergy desensitization programs and make them available across the nation.

What I want you to know is that, as CEO, there is so much more to it than the bottom line. You, Heather Bresch, are in a position to change the game, and there are so many ways you can help children live healthy lives and parents worry a little bit less.

Source Link: Want I want you to know about EpiPens and CEOs

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog ,

That’s what SHE said: why do we judge parents for putting kids at a perceived but unreal risk, a letter to moms on not ‘bouncing back’, Trump’s legacy of racial bias, leaving the ‘he-she-they’ grammar rule behind and more…


An interesting commentary that looks at the moral outrage and sometimes criminal charges brought on parents who leave children unsupervised…“It’s not that risks to children have increased, provoking an increase in moral outrage when children are left unattended. Instead, it could be that moral attitudes toward parenting have changed, such that leaving children unsupervised is now judged morally wrong. And because it’s judged morally wrong, people overestimate the risk.”


A mother of four daughters debunks the myth that we are supposed to “bounce back” after delivering and raising children…“We’re not meant to “bounce back” after babies. Not physically, not emotionally, and definitely not spiritually. We’re meant to step forward into more awakened, more attuned, and more powerful versions of ourselves. Motherhood is a sacred, beautiful, honorable evolution, not the shameful shift into a lesser-than state of being that our society makes it seem. The very notion that we are meant to change as little as possible, and even revert back to the women we were before we became mothers is not only unrealistic, but it’s an insult to women of all ages, demographics, shapes, and sizes. It makes a mockery of the powerful passage into one of the most essential roles a human can live into, and it keeps women disempowered through an endless journey of striving for unattainable goals that wouldn’t necessarily serve us even if we could reach them. The world needs the transformation motherhood brings about it us. The softening, the tenderness, the vulnerability, the shift in prioritization, the depth of love — these are some of the qualities our hurting world needs most.”


A refreshing grant of permission to be exactly where we are with our creative selves…“Sometimes the novel is not ready to be written because you haven’t met the inspiration for your main character yet. Sometimes you need two more years of life experience before you can make your masterpiece into something that will feel real and true and raw to other people. Sometimes you’re not falling in love because whatever you need to know about yourself is only knowable through solitude. Sometimes you haven’t met your next collaborator. Sometimes your sadness encircles you because, one day, it will be the opus upon which you build your life. We all know this: Our experience cannot always be manipulated. Yet, we don’t act as though we know this truth. We try so hard to manipulate and control our lives, to make creativity into a game to win, to shortcut success because others say they have, to process emotions and uncertainty as if these are linear journeys.You don’t get to game the system of your life. You just don’t. You don’t get to control every outcome and aspect as a way to never give in to the uncertainty and unpredictability of something that’s beyond what you understand. It’s the basis of presence to show up as you are in this moment and let that be enough.”


A sobering look at the effect Donald Trump’s words are having on the next generation…“I have students who are scared about what may happen to them or their family members if Donald Trump because president. They fear they or family members will be deported…even though they are citizens…One of my students gestured at the other brown students in the room and said, ‘If Donald Trump become President, you’re OUTTA HERE! And you’re outta here and you’re outta here and you and you! And me. Because I’m Mexican.’”


In light of Donald Trump’s recent attack on Hillary Clinton, calling her a bigot, this article reveals a troubling well-documented past of racial bias that Donald Trump and his father engaged in as they built their housing empire in New York City…“Looking back, Mr. Trump’s response to the lawsuit [filed by the Justice Department for racial and prejudice bias] can be seen as presaging his handling of subsequent challenges, in business and in politics. Rather than quietly trying to settle — as another New York developer had done a couple of years earlier — he turned the lawsuit into a protracted battle, complete with angry denials, character assassination, charges that the government was trying to force him to rent to “welfare recipients” and a $100 million countersuit accusing the Justice Department of defamation. When it was over, Mr. Trump declared victory, emphasizing that the consent decree he ultimately signed did not include an admission of guilt. But an investigation by The New York Times — drawing on decades-old files from the New York City Commission on Human Rights, internal Justice Department records, court documents and interviews with tenants, civil rights activists and prosecutors — uncovered a long history of racial bias at his family’s properties, in New York and beyond.”


We can finally put this issue to rest…“In an effort to be transparent, I have gone above and beyond what is required of me by law and released every last e-mail I received from this retailer,” she told reporters. “Now I think we can all consider this case closed.” The e-mails reveal an extensive one-way correspondence between Clinton and Old Navy, as the retailer sometimes contacted her up to a dozen times in a single day to inform her of sales and other offers. “This is one of the main reasons I set up a private e-mail account,” she said. “I did not want spam from Old Navy clogging up the State Department servers.”


After a vote at the American Dialect Society, a high school English teacher reflects on the red ink he will save now that “they” can be use as a singular gender-neutral pronoun…”Language evolves over time and often social changes bring about modifications in word use. The issue of the missing singular gender-neutral pronoun is one of those situations. That’s why I cheered when the American Dialect Society met in Washington, D.C., recently and voted to make the word ‘they’ acceptable and correct when used as a gender-neutral singular pronoun. The change comes during a time of unprecedented discussion about gender identity issues.”


Now that school is back in session, there are some fascinating exhibits around town that could make for some great show-and-tell conversations or current event topics. The Natural History Museum will be unveiling their new Butterfly Pavilion from September 16 -October 16. If you want to get into the Halloween Spirit check out Guillermo del Toro’s surreal exhibit at LACMA. There are also some fantastic art exhibitions around town including Cindy Sherman: Imitation of Life at The Broad and James Turrell’s Light Reignfall at the LACMA.  If you have any dinosaur lovers in the home, mark your calendars for the Natural History Museum’s first annual Dino Fest September 24 -25. Some great youth theatre is coming up this fall with Theatre for Young Audiences at South Coast Rep. Also, Snowhite at the Santa Monica Playhouse has been extended through September 25. 

For NYC families looking to dodge the sticky heat, check out Edgar Degas’s lesser known printmaking career at the MoMA or MADreads at the Museum of Art & Design. Also, for children’s theatre, the New Vic Theater has some incredible shows coming this fall, starting with a fresh production of Jules Verne’s Twenty Thousand Leagues Under The Sea.

Source Link: That’s what SHE said: why do we judge parents for putting kids at a perceived but unreal risk, a letter to moms on not ‘bouncing back’, Trump’s legacy of racial bias, leaving the ‘he-she-they’ grammar rule behind and more…

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog ,

Friday Finds: Kids Lunch Boxes

1. Fit & Fresh Bento Lunch Box Kit with Reusable Ice Packs | Target  
2. Classmate Printed Soft Sided Lunch Box | Land’s End
3. Spencer Bento Box Containers | Pottery Barn Kids
4. LOL Lunchtime Notes for Kid’s | The Land of Nod 
5. Zoo Lunchie Insulated Kids Bag | Skip Hop
6. Mackenzie Gray Comic Lunch Bag | Pottery Barn Kids
7.Print lunch bag | Gap 
8. Billabong Cali Bear Lunch Box | Tilly’s
9. Jansport Roll Top Lunch Bag, Multi Sticker | Staples

Source Link: Friday Finds: Kids Lunch Boxes

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog ,

Odds and Ends


1. Is it really that hard, being a First World woman? Is it really so tough to have the career and the spouse and the pets and the herb garden and the core strengthening and the oh-I-just-woke-up-like-this makeup and the face injections and the Uber driver who might possibly be a rapist? Is it so hard to work ten hours for your rightful 77% of a salary, walk home past a drunk who invites you to suck his cock, and turn on the TV to hear the men who run this country talk about protecting you from abortion regret by forcing you to grow children inside your body? I highly, highly recommend reading this when you get the chance.

2. Many of us know our Myers-Briggs type, but do you know how your type reacts to stress?

3. A makeup artist + Snapchat filters = Awesome

4. You know I’m all for unique looks, but these pants? No. Just no.

5. Hey! Are you a Sara(h) too? You probably have experienced a few of these in your life.

6. I can’t deal with school drop off and pick up. WHAT THE PROBLEM, PEOPLE? YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG.

7. A dress is left in the ocean for 2 years. Look at the gorgeous transformation. Wow!

8. Ridiculously cute baby napping while dressed up alert.

9. Local OKC friends and those traveling this way…a great restaurant guide. (Although where is Cafe Kacao on this list? Best brunch/lunch in town.)

10. McMansion hell. Cry-laughed through the entire post.

11. Never stop learning. I just love this image.

Happy Friday, everyone! I hope you have a restful weekend.

image credit: richard diebenkorn

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