Wednesday’s Child: Devany, James, and Jesse

Every Wednesday I feature a child recently highlighted by a local Wednesday’s Child newscast to share the stories of children from around the country who are waiting for a family. My hope is that this can broaden exposure for the children highlighted, but also serve as a reminder that these children represent thousands of children currently in the foster-care system. Perhaps their stories will inspire you to consider opening your home to a child needing a family. For more information and to learn about other waiting children, visit AdoptUsKids.


Source Link: Wednesday’s Child: Devany, James, and Jesse

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog , https://ruthrdavisblog.wordpress.com

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FAVORITE SNACKS + ENNEAGRAM TYPE 6: SELFIE, EPISODE 17

We’re talking favorite snacks, both salty and sweet, healthy and splurge-worthy. We also talk with Carlee Lane about being an enneagram type 6.
In this episode we mention the following snacks:
We are loving The Road Back to You by Ian Cron to learn more about our enneagram types.
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Source Link: FAVORITE SNACKS + ENNEAGRAM TYPE 6: SELFIE, EPISODE 17

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog , https://ruthrdavisblog.wordpress.com

Friday Finds

1. Lily Lolo Eye Palette (Laid Bare) | Amazon 
2. Kari Gran Lip Whip Peppermint 
3. Vapour Organic Beauty Atomosphere Luminous Foundation 
4. Simply Gum Assorted Natural Chewing Gum 
5. DN-Unik Age Defying Face Scrub Cream 
6. David’s Natural Toothpaste, Whitening, Anti plaque Toothpaste 
7. Eyeko Sport Brush Mascara, Black 
8. Ahnesti Organic Eterniti Hair + Scalp Refresher 
9. Lily Lolo Natural Eye Pencil  


Source Link: Friday Finds

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog , https://ruthrdavisblog.wordpress.com

An interview with a CHOC doctor on how to have “the talk” with our kids

This post is sponsored by Children’s Hospital of Orange County

I’ve talked quite a bit about how important I think it is for parents to talk openly with their kids about sex. (I even did a facebook live series on it.) Last week I had a chance to chat with a doctor and adolescent specialist from CHOC (Children’s Hospital of Orange County) to hear an expert opinion on how to talk with our kids about hard topics. Dr. Terez Yonan shared her expertise on talking to our kids about sex and sexuality and answered several questions I had about how to best manage this aspect of our children’s lives.

Kristen: Having the sex talk seems to be an area of a lot of anxiety for parents. What advice would you give to parents around that? I’m assuming that you’re probably of the camp that it’s more of an ongoing conversation than a one-off talk.

Dr. Yonan: Yes.

Kristen: When should that start?

Dr. Yonan: I think there are opportunities to talk about our bodies and body parts as early as toddlerhood. It’s developmentally appropriate for toddlers to explore their bodies, touch things, and ask questions. Instead of being embarrassed by questions that come out of a toddler’s mouth, it might be good to use that as an opportunity to talk about what is going on and why things happen the way that they happen.

For younger kids, you don’t have to get very detailed. I think one of the important things is naming things as they are, so not using little playful names or nicknames for genitalia. I think calling a penis a penis and a vagina a vagina is helpful for young people. I know it’s embarrassing to think that they might say that at school or in public, but studies have shown that when kids know the right names for genitalia, they’re more likely to talk about sexual abuse if that does happen to them.

Kristen: Yeah, absolutely, knowing the right word so that there’s a common language do if something, God forbid, were to happen, they can verbalize exactly what’s going on. It seems like in the maybe elementary years, it’s more about learning the body parts, body boundaries and stranger safety. How about for kids that are approaching puberty? What are the conversations we want to be having there?

Dr. Yonan: I think that’s very important as well. It’s scary to go through puberty and realize things are changing. A lot of kids or young children become confused and may kind of isolate themselves because of fears that, “Oh, now I have armpit hair, and there are changes in my underwear.” Talking about these things before they start to happen for the young person is really helpful. It prepares them for the things that are going to happen, and it normalizes it. That’s part of being an early adolescent, too, is one of the major tasks for them is trying to figure out who they are and whether they are normal and if they fit into their age group with the other kids.

Kristen: Absolutely. I know you specialize in LGBT youth. How do we open up the lines of communication so that if our child has issues around sexual identity, or if they feel like maybe they’re gay, they’ll come to us and talk about that?

Dr. Yonan: That’s really important. You want them to be safe in talking to you so that they can come to you for these discussions instead of finding the corners of the internet where things that aren’t so safe might happen. I think that’s a discussion that you can have early on, even in toddlerhood. One playful way to do it is if you have friends who are hitting those different milestones in life, say like you have a heterosexual couple friend who just got married, you can talk about what marriage is and how that relationship is different than just dating. If you have a friend who is dating a same-sex partner, you can talk about why that’s okay, too, like, “Matt and John are in a relationship, and they love each other, and it’s good and normal.” Normalizing that early on in life makes it less of a stigma as your child grows up. Then you can also talk about other things, like that there are transgender people. That actually comes up frequently in the younger elementary school population. I’ve seen patients as young as like seven to three who come in talking about gender identity, like whether my body matches my male identity or female identity. This comes up really early, and it’s okay to talk about it early on because that is the time in a child’s life, between age three to five or six, when our gender identity solidifies. At the same time they may play with toys from the other gender or want to wear clothes that the other gender wears. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’ll be a trans person when they get older. It just means that they’re exploring these, and I think that that’s okay to do, too. It’s not stigmatizing and shouldn’t be for the kid, too.

Kristen: Absolutely. How do we help prepare our girls for menstruation and some of the stress that goes around girls being scared of that starting?

Dr. Yonan: It’s really a hard first milestone for some young women. It’s great to have those discussions with girls as they’re growing up, definitely. I think that it would be good to talk about puberty in general between like age eight and 11. Some kids do start puberty as early as age eight or nine. This includes just little things, so changes in body hair, for females, breast bud development, and then for males, enlargement of the penis and the testicles.

They may notice those. They may not. For girls, they’re kind of pushed to notice it because of the need for sports bras and things like that. That would be a great time to talk about menstruation because typically for female development, they have breast bud development, and then about two years later, they’ll have their first period.

Kristen: Right.

Dr. Yonan: You can discuss what periods are, why, what ovaries and uterus and vagina are so that they know the anatomy and why things happen the way that they do. I think you can also talk to other women in the person’s life to talk about how periods are different for each person, and you can include the doctor in the discussion. I can recall a few visits where moms have come in and were like, “Can you talk to her about periods?” We pull out diagrams, and we draw pictures, and that’s okay.

Kristen: Yeah, that’s great.

Dr. Yonan: Well, yeah, and I think talking about pads and tampons and all of that is important with young people, too, and having little packets prepared when they’re nearing the age. Usually, young women have periods around the same age that their mothers did or their sisters or whatever, so they can use that as a guide.

Kristen: Yeah. That’s been helpful for reducing my own daughter’s anxiety. She has a little packet in the bottom of her school backpack and one in her room so that whenever that starts, she knows where to go and what to get and how to use it. As they’re transitioning into puberty and kind of exploring their sexuality, how do we talk to kids about sex? How do we educate them on what it is? Then how do we help them develop a healthy ethic around it?

Dr. Yonan: That’s a good … I think the second part of the question is probably the more important part, right? As parents, the aim is to have them be happy with their bodies, find healthy relationships, and maintain their values. Even early on in those discussions, as a family, it’s important to talk about what characteristics are valued in your young person, like, “I want you to be strong and respectful and caring,” and then also what they should look for in a partner.

Kristen: Yeah.

Dr. Yonan: That’s stuff that you can talk about early on. Again, like we talked about when you illustrate couples in your life to your kids, you can show the strength in those couples, so like, “Matt and John are in a same-sex relationship, but they care about each other very much, and this is what’s really nice about their relationship.”

That can be helpful for kids to see, too, growing up, what a good relationship looks like so that when they start to date in high school or middle school or start to form crushes, they can form more age-appropriate interests and safe interests, they’re more likely to choose a person who is caring and respectful and trustworthy and not someone who is going to do horrible things like bully them online or become dangerous.

The other benefit of that is that their values are reinforced early on and throughout elementary school into middle school and to high school, and they’re able to resist some of those peer pressures. Even though they form relationships, they can bond and be together and do more age-appropriate things but not really jump into having sex.

Kristen: Right. Yeah, that’s good.

Dr. Yonan: It’s really important to talk about sex, too. You talk about the body parts. You talk about development. Then reproduction itself is something that will eventually happen for most people, so talking about having babies, what it’s like to be pregnant, how someone gets pregnant. These are things that teens have questions about, too, or preteens and young kids.

There are a lot of toddlers who ask where babies come from also, but that doesn’t have to be as detailed in terms of what happens with sexual intercourse.

Kristen: Right. How do we prepare our kids if they do become sexually active to be empowered with safe sex choices and birth control?

Dr. Yonan: These are things that you can talk about together. If there are things that parents are not sure of, it probably would be worthwhile to sit down, do some research, learn more about how condoms are used or what their efficacy is compared to things like birth control or IUDs. It’s okay to take time to do the research and anticipate some questions before your talk, but it’s also, I think, important to talk about like, “What have you heard at school?”, or “What are your friends talking about?”

Kristen: Right. Right.

Dr. Yonan: Or “What questions do you have?” Bringing everything to the table in a relaxed manner with openness and a nonjudgmental tone helps to keep the teen at ease so that they’re more likely to come back to you when they do have questions.

Kristen: Yeah, that’s really good, having an open line of communication so that when things do start happening in that arena they’ll come talk to you.

Dr. Yonan: Yeah. One thing that I learned in my training is that to maintain a curiosity helps to make these more difficult discussions flow easily, so coming from a place of curiosity will make it less … you’re forced to be nonjudgmental.

Kristen: Right. You’re just wanting information, but you’re not coming to it from a place of judgment. That’s good. What about teaching our kids about consent? Any advice on that?

Dr. Yonan: Yes, that’s one of my favorite topics, especially with everything that’s been happening in the media and on the news.

Kristen: Right.

Dr. Yonan: I think it’s very important. So just to step back for a minute, I think there is a question about, “Should we talk to girls about boy development and boys about girl development?” Absolutely, because intercourse takes two partners, one of each, generally. Then not knowing what the other partner looks like or what their development was like can make person A uncomfortable and maybe feel like they have to do something they didn’t want to do.

Coming to the relationship with as much information as possible is helpful. Even talking to boys about periods is really helpful, too.

Kristen: Yeah.

Dr. Yonan: There’s a biological purpose for all of it, right? But consent, I think, is one of the most important things. I think this goes back to having those discussions about values, like in your culture and your community. We have consent for all kinds of things, consent for medical care, consent to pay for things when you go shopping. You should still talk about consent when it comes to your body.

How do I approach it in a medical visit? The way I talk about it is if you’re dating somebody and you’re becoming more interested in them and things are becoming emotionally more invested, that’s a good thing, but your partner should never ask you … well, they could ask, but they should never force you to do something that you don’t want to do.

Kristen: Right.

Dr. Yonan: Even if it’s kissing or whatever, holding hands, that’s something that someone should ask before they touch your body. If that’s okay and you’re ready for that, let them know, “I’m ready for that,” and go for it. But the reverse happens, too. You should ask your partner if they’re okay with what you’re about to do. Then this becomes very important in having sex. I encourage young couples or even single young people to think about what’s important for them in a relationship, what kind of partner they want.

Then if they do find someone that they start to date, to talk about, “These are the things I expect in a relationship from early on.” This includes sex. A lot of young people think, and parents, think that girls want to wait to have sex, and boys want to have sex as soon as possible, but that’s not the truth. Really, young men also want to take time, invest in a relationship, get to know their partner before things get sexually serious.

Kristen: Right.

Dr. Yonan: I find that a lot of young people are surprised to hear that. I encourage them to talk about sex and when they would wait, how long they would wait to have sex. Then if they are having sex or they’re interested in having sex, we talk about how important it is to come in and talk about condoms and birth control and STD testing before that happens, but that they can also come and see us after, like if they’ve already had sex once or twice, and they’re like, “Ooh, I need to come do something so I don’t get pregnant.”

Kristen: Right.

Dr. Yonan: It’s important.

Kristen: The door is always open. It’s not like a missed window.

Dr. Yonan: Yeah, and then it’s important to … I know as parents we can get really mad if we hear that our young child or our young teenager has already had sex. It’s hard not to shame them, but it’s probably better not to shame them so that they can still come to talk to you about it.

Kristen: Right. Absolutely, because as soon as you shame them, that line of conversation is over.

Dr. Yonan: Yeah, and then they may go to friends or other people for information, and it may not be the most accurate or safe information.

Kristen: Right. Absolutely. I mean at the end of the day, we want our kids learning all about all of this from us and not from their friends on the bus.

Dr. Yonan: Yeah, a trusted source.

Kristen: Yes. Yeah, or a doctor. I mean if a parent finds themselves completely uncomfortable with this topic maybe due to their own life experiences, how do we outsource? What kind of resources are available if this is a difficult conversation for parents?

Dr. Yonan: Yeah, some people talk to other parents and see how they had the talk with their children. Some people reach out to trusted community members or clergy, just to talk about the values and how to have those discussions with young people. You can definitely talk to your medical providers about that. Then there are some resources available online for parents from CHOC. And there are websites from different trusted organizations that the Adolescent Medicine Society has compiled for parent resources on how to have the talk.

Kristen: Is there anything that you would really want to impart to parents about these conversations with their kids?

Dr. Yonan: Yeah, I think that, again, being honest with your young person about, “Yeah, I know about this stuff. This is what I know, and this is what’s important to us,” is great. It’s also okay to be like, “Oh, I don’t know about that. I’m going to write it down and look it up, or we can go talk with the doctor about that.” I think that’s okay to show them that we don’t know everything.

Kristen: That’s good.

Dr. Yonan: I mean honestly, as a doctor, I do that sometimes.

Kristen: Yeah. That’s really good, to just say, “Let me get back to you on that,” or “Wait,” or “Let me wait.”

Dr. Yonan: Yeah, and you can use little moments. You don’t have to make it feel like a proper meeting. You can make little moments in life where you’re like, “Oh, we’re driving to someplace, and it’s going to take half an hour. Let’s check in about that one thing you had a question about.”

Kristen: Oh, that’s good.

Dr. Yonan: Or what they’re seeing on tv. I think that the same with those real-life teaching moments, you can outline there are types of relationships. I mean in some of those shows, we see there are positive relationships and negative relationships, and you can use that to outline what is good about this relationship and what is bad or what’s acceptable and what’s not acceptable by using the little vignettes on TV. It’s also good to talk about how a person in a movie reacted to a situation. “What would you do in that situation?” Or “This is how I would have done it. What would you have done?”

Kristen: That’s really good, using it as a conversation starter.

Dr. Yonan: Yeah, and this could be some of those … TV has been getting really dramatic lately, but this is important because sometimes it’s hard to talk about what happens if someone is raped or abused, or what happens if you have sex and the condom breaks? What are your resources? What is emergency contraception, and what really is abortion? These are little bits of things that you can look up and talk about together.

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Source Link: An interview with a CHOC doctor on how to have “the talk” with our kids

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog , https://ruthrdavisblog.wordpress.com

Wednesday’s child: Conner

Every Wednesday I feature a child recently highlighted by a local Wednesday’s Child newscast to share the stories of children from around the country who are waiting for a family. My hope is that this can broaden exposure for the children highlighted, but also serve as a reminder that these children represent thousands of children currently in the foster-care system. Perhaps their stories will inspire you to consider opening your home to a child needing a family. For more information and to learn about other waiting children, visit AdoptUsKids.


Source Link: Wednesday’s child: Conner

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog , https://ruthrdavisblog.wordpress.com

Assisting Hands Home Care Ranked on Entrepreneur’s Franchise 500 for 2018

The national office of Assisting Hands Home Care announced today it has been ranked #164 in Entrepreneur magazine’s Franchise 500 for 2018. Entrepreneur, the most comprehensive franchise ranking system, received more than 1,000 applications, making this one of the most competitive years in its 39-year history.

This is the third year Assisting Hands has been ranked by Entrepreneur and a considerable rise in position from the last two years. In 2017, the home healthcare franchise provider ranked #287, moving up from #307 in 2016.

Entrepreneur’s Franchise 500 is based on financial strength, growth, size and stability.

In 2017, Assisting Hands opened 14 units for a total of 104 operating in the U.S., one international unit, and three company-owned units.

“To be recognized by Entrepreneur for three consecutive years is a testament to our team,” said Lane Kofoed, president and CEO of Assisting Hands. “We strive to continuously improve our brand, support our franchise owners and provide the very best service to our clients.”

Assisting Hands Home Care made several other top franchise lists in 2017, including the INC. 5000 and Franchise Times Top 200+.

Franchise Business Review, another industry report, ranked Assisting Hands in the Franchise Top 50 for 2018, which is based on franchisee satisfaction.

“The last year brought us great success, both for our franchise owners and our company as a whole,” said Kofoed. “We look forward to what 2018 continues to hold for Assisting Hands.”

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Odds and Ends

1. Our home was featured in Domino! Very exciting.

2. A reminder of what the late 60s looked like.

3. “I heard the word “sh*thole” on National Public Radio this morning so you know it’s the End of Days.” Great article. Eric Thomas does it again.

4. I saw my second Yayoi Kusama installation a couple of weeks ago, but didn’t know much about Kusama’s story. This is fascinating.

5. What do you all think about Zuckerberg’s big decision?

6. Oh wow. Truth spoken (or illustrated) right here.

7. The New York Times is looking for young writers! What an opportunity.

8. Do you sleep on a silk pillowcase? Intrigued…

9. A pug train! This will make you smile.

10. Wow. I guess this is the direction we are heading in. #sexualconsent

11. Wrote about one of my favorite all-around clean cosmetics brands here.

12. On this week’s Selfie podcast, we dish up all of our favorite snacks. (See what I did there?) Also, I LOVE this interview with an Enneagram Type 6…this college student has more wisdom than most middle-aged folks.

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Hope you all have a great weekend!

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Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog , https://ruthrdavisblog.wordpress.com

Odds and Ends

1. Our home was featured in Domino! Very exciting.

2. A reminder of what the late 60s looked like.

3. “I heard the word “sh*thole” on National Public Radio this morning so you know it’s the End of Days.” Great article. Eric Thomas does it again.

4. I saw my second Yayoi Kusama installation a couple of weeks ago, but didn’t know much about Kusama’s story. This is fascinating.

5. What do you all think about Zuckerberg’s big decision?

6. Oh wow. Truth spoken (or illustrated) right here.

7. The New York Times is looking for young writers! What an opportunity.

8. Do you sleep on a silk pillowcase? Intrigued…

9. A pug train! This will make you smile.

10. Wow. I guess this is the direction we are heading in. #sexualconsent

11. Wrote about one of my favorite all-around clean cosmetics brands here.

12. On this week’s Selfie podcast, we dish up all of our favorite snacks. (See what I did there?) Also, I LOVE this interview with an Enneagram Type 6…this college student has more wisdom than most middle-aged folks.

//player.blubrry.com/id/30656219/

Hope you all have a great weekend!

The post Odds and Ends appeared first on whoorl.

Original Source of this article: Ruth Davis’ OC Blog , https://ruthrdavisblog.wordpress.com